Why music exams and competitions matter (and when they don’t)
For many families, exams and competitions are milestones that shape a young musician’s learning journey. They provide structure, clear goals, and a tangible way to measure progress. AsGenevieve Lang, a professional harpist and educator, notes, exams can motivate consistent practice and broaden repertoires. That said, participation should be optional for some students, and the emphasis should stay on growth, not just results. The right approach helps kids see exams as a stepping stone rather than a make‑or‑break moment.
Understanding what exam boards offer
In Australia and many other places, graded exams are offered by established boards such as the Australian Music Examination Board (AMEB), the Associated Board of the Royal Schools of Music (ABRSM), and the Suzuki method. These syllabuses span from beginner to advanced levels and provide recognized qualifications. Even for students who don’t pursue every grade, the process can expand repertoire and deepen musical understanding as educators emphasize technical skill alongside musical communication.
What examiners and judges look for
Contrary to the belief that perfection wins the day, examiners value communication and musical intent. A performance that clearly conveys ideas or tells a story often resonates more than mere technical accuracy. The ability to communicate with the audience—adapting tempo, tone, and phrasing—can help judges overlook minor slips. Encouraging young players to focus on expression reduces overemphasis on flawless notes and shifts attention to how the music feels in the moment.
Practical tips for parents and caregivers
Frame preparation as a positive, collaborative process at home. Replace fear-based language with encouragement: say, “I love hearing you play” or “I can see how hard you’re working.” This kind of support helps children internalize a growth mindset. Create low-stakes practice simulations, such as performing for family, recording themselves, or sharing a video with friends. The goal is to copy the pressures of a real performance in a controlled, supportive environment so the child learns to stay present under nerves.
Developing a sustainable practice routine
Consistency beats intensity. Short, focused practice sessions with clear objectives are more effective than long, exhausting marathons. Include a mix of repertoire work, technique, and sight-reading, and progressively increase the difficulty so progress remains tangible. Allow time for rest and fun music-making to prevent burnout.
Psychological preparation and on-the-day strategies
Performance anxiety often stems from worrying about the future and past mistakes. Reframing the moment as a challenge rather than a threat helps the body mobilize its resources effectively. Techniques like controlled breathing, positive self-talk, and brief visualization can reduce adrenaline-driven symptoms. When mistakes happen on stage, keeping the music going and treating errors as part of the performance fosters resilience. If anxiety spikes, remind children that their value isn’t tied to a single exam or competition.
How to talk about outcomes and learning from setbacks
Exams and competitions can be valuable experiences, but they aren’t the sole path to a musical career or lifelong skill. If a performance doesn’t go as hoped, the experience still offers lessons in preparation, focus, and perseverance. Many successful musicians did not follow a linear route through exam systems, proving that adaptability and passion are powerful allies on the musical journey.
Putting it into practice: a simple plan for families
1) Choose a goal that fits the child’s motivation, not just parental expectations. 2) Build a realistic timeline with regular, manageable practice. 3) Create practice runs that simulate performance conditions. 4) Normalize mistakes as learning steps and celebrate effort and improvement. 5) Prepare emotionally as a team—prioritize communication, compassion, and curiosity about music.
By combining structured preparation with compassionate support, families can help young musicians excel in exams and competitions while keeping performance anxiety in check. When kids feel heard, prepared, and connected to the music, they’re more likely to perform with confidence and joy.
